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Divorce is Devastating


Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.” (Matthew 5: 31 – 32)


During the time of Christ’s earthly ministry, many of the more liberal Jews believed that a man could divorce his wife for any reason. Jesus corrected that malicious belief; reaffirming the sanctity and permanence of marriage. According to God’s divine will, divorce is only permissible when one of the married individuals has committed some act of sexual immorality; such as adultery. And yet even then, God desires repentance, forgiveness and reconciliation whenever possible. Like many horrific sins, divorce devestates entire families; creating insecurity, instability, and spiritual decay. It is therefore to be avoided at all costs.

Let’s take a moment to look at some of the consequences of divorce. In only 10 percent of divorces did both parents feel they had achieved happier lives. Children of divorce may have lower scores on self-concept and social relationship tests. Girls whose fathers left home before they were five years old were eight times more likely to become pregnant as adolescents than girls from intact families. As adults, the female children of divorced parents experience less trust and satisfaction in emotional relationships. Boys who have experienced divorce, become sexually active at an earlier age and are more likely to contract sexually transmitted diseases. Children of divorce are also less likely to view marriage as permanent and less likely to view it as a lifelong commitment. Kids from divorced households demonstrate lower grade point averages. Children growing up in single parent households are almost 200 percent more likely to be physically abused or neglected. Children of single parents are nearly twice as likely to have emotional and behavioral problems.

Jesus condemns divorce because it creates suffering in the lives of all those who experience it. Marriage is an institution created by God, which unites one man and one woman together as one; for an entire lifetime. Divorce tears two individuals apart; which damages them, their children, and society as a whole. May we always respect the unity and permanence of holy matrimony. May we continue to strengthen our marriages by loving and serving one another. May we not look to the left nor to the right, but always stay focused upon, and be satisfied with, whomever the Lord had given us.

Heavenly Father, we recognize the permanence of marriage. Help us to love our wives, our husbands, and our children with a passion. May we care for them as we would any possession you have relinquished into our custody. May we serve them; may we love them; and may be gracious toward them. Take away those things that divide us and draw us ever closer together in unity and affection. We love you Father, we praise You, and we thank You, and we ask and pray all of these things, according to Your will, in Jesus Christ’s name. Amen. God bless all of you!

Marriage is Permanent


          Then the Pharisees came and asked Him, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?” testing Him.  And He answered them saying, “What did Moses command you?”  They said, “Moses allowed a man to write a certificate of divorce, and to dismiss her.”  And Jesus answered and said to them, “Because of the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept.  But from the beginning of the creation, God ‘made them male and female.’ ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh.  Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”  In the house His disciples also asked Him again about the same matter.  So He said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her.  And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery” (Mark 10: 2-12.)


          The religious leaders asked Jesus a controversial question concerning divorce (controversial even today.)  They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?”  Jesus’ answered ‘No.’  He then referred to Adam and Eve as an example of God’s divine will concerning marriage.  In ‘the beginning,’ God created two people; Adam and his wife Eve.  They were created for one another; God intended them to be one inseparable person; one being, in eternal fellowship with Him.  They longed for one another and had no desire to be apart.  Divorce is not God’s creation [Although God did not create divorce, according to Jesus, He allows it in only one instance.  Sexual immorality, such as adultery, is a just cause for divorce.]  The bond between a husband and wife is sacred; and if broken, produces a plethora of eternal consequences.

          Every human being alive today is the product of the union between two people.  When the first cell is formed in the womb, it carries with it, all of the information necessary to create a person.  Half of the instructions come from the mother, and half come from the father.  The child may have the father’s eyes, but the mother’s hair; their mannerisms and behaviors will partially reflect either parent in some way.  Imagine attempting to separate the child in two; ‘half of Dad over there; half of Mom over here.’  Can a human being be divided in such a way and still hope to live?  No; any attempt at separation would surely result in death.  When two people get divorced they are trying to separate what cannot be separated.  Sadly, many married couples choose to divide and in turn they choose death rather than life.

          Today, anyone seeking to be married should understand that there is no turning back; there is no ‘jumping ship;’ there is no dividing what God has made one.  Divorce for any reason other than sexual immorality leads to death.  Although marriage is meant to be a blessing and a gift from the Lord, at times it can be challenging and extremely difficult; despite the challenges however, it is most certainly permanent; it is a contract that can never be broken.  So take the time to consider what marriage means before you enter into an eternal union with another human being.

          “Lord Heavenly Father, please give those who are married the strength to continue forward in love with their eternal partners; may they understand the permanence of their marriage vows.  Also, provide those of us who are not married with wisdom in choosing our future wives and husbands.  Lord, continue to guide Your children; that those who love You may avoid the snares of death, and the tragedy and misery of divorce.  We love You Father, we praise You, and we thank You, and we ask and pray all of these things, according to Your will, in Jesus Christ’s name.  Amen.”  God bless all of you.

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